Why is Sex Losing Its Spark?

Why is Sex Losing Its Spark?

Even if your partner is great, it's normal to feel bored with sex in a long-term romantic relationship. Passionate sex isn't always there, and sometimes your mind or body gets in the way.

What is boring sex?

Everyone has a different definition of boredom, so there's no one standard for boring sex. Everyone has different tastes and needs for sex, and they don't always match. Because the pressures of life mean you spend less time on sex, sometimes sex tends to become a chore. But the good news is that this situation can be changed for the better.

What causes this boredom?

Boredom in sex may not be caused by sex itself, but by external factors. There are many reasons for this, such as relationship and emotional problems, life stress, anxiety and depression. There are also some physical factors, such as pain, sexual dysfunction and endurance problems, or side effects of some medications, which lead to boring sex.

How to make your sex life more interesting

There are many new ways to change your existing sex life and inject new vitality and freshness. You can try to make changes from the following points.

1. Communicate with your partner

If you are dissatisfied with your current sex life, the first and most important step is to have an open discussion with your partner, understand each other's demands and wishes, and find out why sex is boring. At the same time, communication is also a good thing to talk about sex with your partner and enhance your understanding of each other. Be careful not to criticize your partner in this process. You can try, for example, I miss the spark I once had, I want to get it back, maybe we can try some new bedroom games.

2. Arrange sex

When it comes to arranging sex, do you think it is bad and loses the spontaneity of sex. But in fact, it is not the case. Arranging sex can also be spontaneous, and it can make our sex life more healthy and help maintain the relationship with our partners. At the same time, arranging sex has many benefits. It can make us better prepared for sex, increase sexual excitement and sexual tension, and there will be no interference from other things.

3. Add sex toys

If you want to make your bedroom games more interesting, sex toys are a good choice. And there are many types and functions of sex toys for you to choose from. The addition of sex toys can add freshness and interest to your sex life, and there are more choices and ways to explore.

4. Try new activities

Try new activities to better discover your preferences. Trying new things is also an interesting adventure. Before starting to try new activities, the most important thing is to communicate and exchange with your partner and get your partner's consent. Consent is a very sexy thing. You can try new activities such as role-playing, trying BDSM, temperature games and sensory games.

5. Change scenes and postures

If you feel bored with missionary, you might as well try to stay away from the bed and try some new scenes and postures. For example, try in the bathroom, on the sofa, in the car, or even on the terrace, or outdoors. If you want to try outdoors, choose a quiet place with few people to protect your privacy and safety. Try to change the postures you are familiar with. Don't underestimate this little change, it will make you experience different feelings and excitement.

6. Explore sexual fetishes and sexual fantasies

Common sexual fetishes include BDSM, role-playing, fetishes, fantasies, etc., and according to a 2017 study, more than half of more than 1,000 adults were surveyed and were interested in kinks. Understanding each other's sexual fetishes and preferences can make your sex life diverse and interesting. Exploration is not only an interesting adventure, but also a good opportunity to bring each other closer.

You can also make a yes, no, maybe list, which not only helps you understand each other's boundaries, but also makes it easier to record and modify.

7. Seek help from a doctor

If you are in a long-term romantic relationship, being in boring sex for a long time will greatly affect your relationship and feelings. Then it is necessary to seek help from a third party, such as a doctor, psychologist, and sex therapist. Going with your partner can help you solve the problems in your relationship and find the spark you once had.

Final Thoughts

If you are bored with sex in your relationship, the first and most important thing is to communicate and exchange with your partner. Communication is the cornerstone of everything. At the same time, you should also pay attention to not being critical and biased when communicating, so that you can better solve the current problems and find the spark and passion you once had.

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