What is fake orgasm?
Faking orgasm is the act of performing an orgasm without having an orgasm. Although this situation is more common among women, both men and women fake orgasms. Although there is no unified standard for fake orgasm, there are still some signs to judge whether it is fake orgasm. For example, a person's body language and speech are inconsistent, and the performance is too exaggerated like a porn actor.
Why fake orgasm?
There are many reasons for fake orgasm. In a romantic relationship, being in a state of fake orgasm for a long time will have a negative impact on both sex life and each other's emotions.
1. Fear of making your partner sad
Some people fake orgasm just to please their partner and don't want to make their partner feel sad. They are afraid that showing their true emotions in the bedroom will disappoint their partner. And they are afraid of hurting their partner's self-esteem, and want to affirm their partner's sexual ability in this way to maintain their emotions.
2. Don't know the real orgasm
Some people don't know what an orgasm is like. Especially in some countries and regions with conservative ideas and greater religious influence. Talking about sex is something that is difficult to talk about or forbidden. Or because of lack of knowledge about sex, they don't understand orgasm. They think that orgasms are like those in porn movies, and have a one-sided understanding of orgasms.
3. Want to end quickly
Another reason may be due to fatigue, or they are not interested in the current sex and want to end it quickly. They will pretend to have an orgasm to end the sex quickly.
4. It is difficult to express their sexual desire
It is difficult to communicate and exchange sexual topics with their partners, and it is difficult to express their demands and sexual desires. This will lead to fake orgasms. This is usually caused by the growth environment and cultural education, which will make them afraid to face their desires and think that expressing their desires is guilty, thus suppressing their feelings and avoiding conversations about sex.
5. Health problems
Not all fake orgasms are unsatisfactory sex lives. For example, some people have health problems, such as orgasm anorexia, orgasm headaches, mental illnesses, and side effects of some drugs. If they can't get an orgasm, they will pretend to have an orgasm to express their sexual satisfaction and avoid this complex problem.
Disadvantages of faking an orgasm
Faking an orgasm is not a good thing. It is very likely to be discovered, making your partner feel that you are a liar, destroying the relationship and emotions. Moreover, there are few benefits of faking an orgasm, so you don't need to take risks for it.
1. Preventing you from having a satisfactory sex life
Faking an orgasm will avoid problems that occur during orgasm, and at the same time, you will lack the opportunity to improve your sex life, explore the fun of new things, and fail to get a satisfactory sexual experience.
2. Lack of interest in sex
Sex is originally a healthy and happy thing. Faking an orgasm will destroy this feeling, making you no longer enjoy sex and lose interest in sex. This will not only affect each other's sexual experience, but more importantly, being in this state for a long time will be detrimental to each other's feelings.
3. Missed the opportunity to improve sex life
Your partner can't read your mind. If you express what you really want and keep faking an orgasm, it will only make your sex life worse and worse. If you don't talk about sex with your partner, there will never be a chance to improve. After all, you are the only one who understands your body, and you may also want to please you completely. Don't deprive them of the opportunity to improve.
4. It destroys intimacy
Faking an orgasm will weaken intimacy. After all, you can't honestly express your needs and feelings to your partner, so you avoid talking about sex and even avoid intimacy.
5. It destroys confidence in the bedroom
Many people who fake orgasms put their partner's needs first and ignore their own needs. In the long run, they will lose confidence in the bedroom and think they don't deserve an orgasm.
6. You will eventually get tired of this act
Faking an orgasm is always a deception. If your partner finds out, it will seriously affect your relationship. Long-term performances of orgasms can be very tiring and make your partner feel confused. It's time to give up this dishonest behavior and express your needs and desires to your partner. This is the key to a happy sexual experience.
Final thoughts
Faking an orgasm will not only affect your sex life, but also your emotional life. When the truth is exposed, it will also cause your emotions and trust to collapse. Communicate with your partner to express your concerns and demands, and seek help from a third party if necessary.