How to Talk to Your Partner about Sex?

How to Talk to Your Partner about Sex?

Whether you want to change your current sex life, or you want to try new ideas and activities with your partner, then go talk to your partner about sex, because communication is the basis of everything. Next, why should we talk about sex, what are the benefits of talking about sex, and how do we talk about sex with our partners?

Why you should talk to your partner about sex?

Are you dissatisfied with your current sex life? Or maybe you want to try some new things and ideas. But these are all based on communication and your partner's consent, so it's important to talk to your partner about sex. Maybe you feel ashamed about talking about sex due to traditional concepts. Don't worry, this is a normal phenomenon. Only by talking about sex with your partner can you have a better sex life and experience.

Before you start talking to your partner about sex, be prepared that it may not be easy. But don't worry too much. After all, the starting point for a better sex life is good, but it is important for both parties to maintain a sex-positive state.

What are the benefits of talking about sex?

Talking about sex with your partner may seem like a no-brainer, but it's often easier said than done. So why do people tend to talk positively about sex with their partners, and what are the benefits?

1. Better sex

After all, communication is the basis of everything. Whether you want to try some new ideas or activities, it is very necessary to communicate with your partner beforehand.

2. Improve your relationship

Communication can solve the problems in your current sexual life, improve your sexual experience, improve your sexual relationship, make you more positive about sex, and have a healthier sex life and frequency.

3. Increase intimacy

Talking about sex is a private and intimate act, and sexual intimacy has a great impact on a relationship. And talking about sex can enhance each other's sexual experience and enhance each other's sexual intimacy.

Topic of conversation?

1. Talk about what turns you on

You can express your desires to your partner, talk about each other's preferences and kinks, say what you want her to do to you, what areas can be improved, and more.

2. Eager to try new things

Talk to your partner about new ideas and activities you want to try, such as sexual fantasies,sex toys, role play, BDSM, etc. Maybe you can also make a yes, no, maybe list to better remember each other's preferences and things to try. Discover new excitement and adventures while slowly exploring again and again.

How do you start talking about sex with your partner?

1.Start slowly

Take your time when talking about sex and don't rush it. You can make an appointment with your partner at a time and place in advance, so that both parties can be prepared and focus on the problems to be solved.

2. Choose the right time and place

Choose a suitable time and place to start your sexual conversation. Avoid talking in the bedroom, before going to bed, or after sex. You can choose a more private place, such as a coffee shop, in the afternoon or morning. Choose a place where you both feel safe and comfortable to talk.

3. Focus on intimacy

During this process, you should pay attention to each other's intimacy, don't be too formal, and express your desire to change, for the sake of a better sexual experience for both parties.


4. Express your wishes

Express what you want, what you don't like, what you want the other person to do to you, what sexual activities you want to try, etc. Make clear your boundaries with each other.

5. Talk about your sexual fantasies

Talking about each other's sexual fantasies is exciting and exciting. Common sexual fantasies such as fetishes, role play, BDSM, voyeurism, etc. Share each other's sexual fantasies, whether or not they are acted upon. Sexual fantasies are a simple act that can add excitement and adventure to our sex lives.

6. Keep a positive attitude and don’t criticize

Maintain a positive attitude when discussing sex, gently propose the direction and behavior you want to change, and avoid criticism. Talk more about your feelings and give more affirmation to the other person. My advice is to talk about some of the things you like the other person to do to you before you offer your opinion, and then after that you offer your opinion.

7. Communicate often

Talking about sex is something that requires constant communication and ongoing discussion. Because our sexual desires and preferences may change over time. Or if you have new ideas you want to try, maintaining communication with your partner can lead to a better sexual experience.

Final thoughts

Talking about sex with your partner plays a huge role in our sexual experience and can also increase our sexual intimacy and enhance our relationship. Communicate frequently with your partner to discuss new ideas and suggestions. Communication is to maintain a positive attitude, do not criticize the other party, and give more affirmation to the other party.

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