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Basic Tips for Your First Kink Meeting

Starting your first kinky session adventure? You made a great choice! Immersing yourself in an adventurous, open-minded, sex-positive community can profoundly change your self-perception and worldview. You can also buy sex toys at inya to prepare in advance.Plus, it's fun.

I remember trying out a wacky weekend myself for the first time and feeling both excited and a little caught off guard. While this is certainly great, I wish I had more gear. So, without giving too much away, I've put together a few tips to help you navigate the experience and get the most out of it:


1. On-site Survey

Before you head off on a whimsical weekend adventure to a far-off city or state, consider doing some on-the-ground research closer to home, if possible. Exploring a new environment is often more manageable when you can easily retreat to familiar spaces as needed. While not everyone has the luxury of living in a bustling kink community, if you have the chance, I highly recommend dipping your toes in the water before taking the plunge.


2. Wear Comfortable Clothes

Don’t overlook the importance of bringing comfortable clothing during the excitement of looking your sexiest all weekend long. While it's tempting to dress to impress and attract attention to potential playmates, you'll thank yourself for bringing some comfortable clothes with you during the first 24 hours. Despite carefully planning your outfit weeks in advance, the temptation to lounge around in sweats is undeniable, especially when you see others frolicking in unicorn onesies and similarly cozy ensembles.


3. Contact in advance

Networking with other attendees before the event is a valuable opportunity that shouldn’t be ignored. Most kink events will take place on some platform that participants can contact in advance. I highly recommend taking the initiative to interact with others in these groups. While people may share their interests in an introductory thread, don't hesitate to reach out in person to the person who caught your attention. It may be nerve-wracking at first, but starting a conversation can lead to meaningful connections and enrich your overall experience.


4.  Respect your boundaries

With limited time away from “real life,” it’s easy to want to explore every fantasy and fulfill every desire, but it’s crucial to pace yourself and respect your boundaries. Remember to stay healthy, hydrated and nourished throughout the event. Carry a water bottle and snacks along with condoms and lube to ensure you have the energy to fully enjoy yourself. Pushing yourself too far beyond your limits can lead to burnout or even worse, which I learned firsthand when I neglected to eat and drink enough and ended up not feeling well. Take care of yourself so you can make the most of the experience without any unnecessary frustration.


5. Be prepared to take all risks

Be prepared to take some risks when connecting with others at events. Shyness is very common among this group of people, and many times, you may not even realize it. Many of my most memorable playmates came about when we first met each other, when neither of us had the courage to express our interest. Things did not progress until after contacting the platform after the event. Remember, someone has to take the first step, why not you? My advice is to "embrace the awkwardness." You don't have to be diplomatic if that's not your style. One of my friend's most successful pick-up lines is simply, "Hi, I'm [name]. I'm embarrassed." Personally, I find success in spontaneously blurting out: "Hi! You're cute! What's your name? Name?" Trust me, it worked at least once.

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6. Don’t be too hard on yourself

Don't be too hard on yourself in the whirlwind of carnal adventures and sensory overload of perverted events. It’s easy to fall into a competitive mindset by comparing your experiences to those around you. In this case, I felt guilty for letting jealousy cloud my happiness. Keep in mind that what you see and hear may not reflect the full picture of someone else’s experience. Just because someone seems to be screaming or moaning in ecstasy, it doesn't necessarily mean they're enjoying themselves. Everyone’s journey is unique, and it’s crucial to stay focused on your own path and have compassion for yourself.

These are just some of the insights I wish I had gained before attending my first kink event. It’s a whirlwind of feelings and experiences, and while it can be incredibly enjoyable, it’s okay to feel overwhelmed. Being emotionally prepared can help you navigate the journey more smoothly.

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